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N0 offense meant to anyone, never…:):) The title came only out of sheer joy for something I love about my country…:) There are exceptions of course, but go to any corner of India, you will see a lot of boring couples clinging to each other until the end of time, but never failing to notice one another…!

There is always a spiritual element hidden in every bold custom and tradition in India and a strict adherence and belief in the institution of Marriage is no different…!

In a marriage, people enter into commitments for a lifetime, which is even a debated topic, considering the boredom and disappointment this would obviously bring into an individual’s life atleast at some point. But, to those who like India, let me tell you…Here’s   ‘Love’ , with every bit of Sweetness, Passion and Divinity…!!

In any relationship, its only a matter of time before the “Flames of Passion would start dyeing”…Even the most celebrated couple ends up feeling in a  lose of charm, lack of interest and disappointment. At this point of time, its upto the couple to either make it work or leave it in midway…unfortunately latter attracts more attention…:(

I believe no relationship is pure in the beginning. It requires a lot of patience to actually make it work during its crisis time, on the success of which is when ‘true love’ sprouts..:) May be a marriage is said to be a ‘bond’ because it ensures this..It enables them to patiently wait and pass the test of time…! This profound love can cross all boundaries and is even capable of assisting in an individual’s personal spiritual growth..No wonder why India is always a spiritual country in the first place…:):)

Where else but in India can one find a ‘world wonder’ , once built by a man in fond memory of his beloved wife…! There is Love blossoming everywhere…in the fields and in streets, in tiny huts and in crowded mansions..amidst all pain and sacrifices…:)

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“When in love everything
begins to look beautiful
Every dream seems to come true
All your goals change direction
Even the wind changes its course …
Eyes search for colors …
and now even red starts to look nice …
every moment … every time …
always…
there’s only one name on the lips …”

There is nothing more beautiful than being in love..:) And there is nothing wrong in falling in love…It is as sane as the sound of the chirping birds or the drizzling rain touching one’s soul unexpectedly…:) The beauty, the surprise and the happiness that love brings is indefinable, yet, poets of all ages would have given it a try…

The entire concept of love goes this way…on and on…It is definitely one of the most warmly received ‘guest’ in our lives ! I feel, referring love as a ‘guest’ is the best way to come to my point..:) Just as we do a million preparations to receive our most dignified, much awaited and a lot ‘expected’ guest, we must be “prepared” for falling in love..We must be prepared for everything that goes around ‘falling in love’…!

I have seen my friends going through breakups after many years of commitment with their partners. In some cases, they would even be ‘married’. I saw them, both when they were in love and when they lost love…

May be, love is blind because love takes people far away from reality. And finally when reality strikes, it strikes so hard that many a times, it is taken more like a ‘trauma’, unbearable yet unavoidable…! Often, I noticed girls going through this trauma more than guys. As a friend, I felt helpless in consoling them…

The girls, they would cry day and night. I saw them profusely lamenting into my ears about the good old days, the care, the love, the laughter, the intimacy, the decisions, the dreams that the couples shared. They would say, “Everything was so good. There were fights of course. But is there anything unusual about it..? We all fight with people whom we love the most. I still don’t understand the reason he left me…He initiated the relationship…he was behind me all those years..I wouldn’t have told a ‘yes’ to him if it wasn’t for the effort he took for our relationship…And now, how can he forget all that..? How can he leave this in midway and just go..? How can he spoil my life like this..??? I can’t forget him..”

I saw them making a thousand phone calls to the guy that often goes unattended.. I saw their smileless faces, bearing signs of the agony they carried in their heart… I saw them hoping beyond hope, that he would come back.. I saw them, very slowly, coping up with the ‘reality’… And finally, after a very long time of their emotionally stressed days, I saw them coming back to their routine…By the time they are back, they would never be the same person. Some of them became more strong at heart, while many, totally lost themselves..I even had to see some of them taking pills prescribed by psychiatrists…!

So, I thought of writing this article to all my girls who are ‘in love’..!:) Getting committed is natural, for falling in love often happens unexpectedly. But I feel its important that you have an understanding about the whole ‘love thing’..!

Lets not ponder much about what makes a guy think the way he thinks, for even the writer have been pondering about this for a long time..:P What makes him come to you with all zest, carry you away from all things that you thought to be yours, take you to the ‘100th cloud’ and then, without even a clue, drop you off suddenly is a wonder as well as a mystery to me..:D But its upto us to understand that ‘Their way of thinking is very different from ours’..! Our thoughts lie on an altogether different plane from theirs and, there will never come a time when these two planes would ever meet. So I feel its better that we focus on ‘us’ and change our ‘take’ on them.

I feel, ‘every girl’ who decides to get committed with a guy, should be prepared for a situation something like which I mentioned above. I have observed that girls genuinely have a tendency to think: ‘My guy is different. He is not like other guys who would leave their girls and go..!’ and I believe this is where all girls go wrong. We must realise that we can also go through the same thing, and hence, must be ready to ‘face’ it..:)

Often, I have seen girls hating themselves after the breakup, for they believe they are too silly, too arrogant, too bossy, or too boring and a lot more too — for the guy…Its actually not like that..:) Remember you are created that way. You are supposed to be little arrogant, silly, jealous, boring, quiet, talkative or what ever you are..They are your signature traits as ‘a girl’..:) You should only be careful that nothing crosses its limit for its a ‘universal’ rule…:)

I believe all girls must have some good understanding about themselves, their very ‘being’. Whatever the situation maybe, we must be able to deal with it, and I affirm, this would help in it. We are basically ’emotional’ creatures. Often, we forget ourselves, our dreams, our happiness, our ambition for the one we love. Taking his problems and pain to be ours, we are ready to fight tooth and nail to help him come out of it. And finally when he leaves us, we are shattered to the core… Remember, being one of the most wonderful and most beautiful creation of God, this is our basic nature..:) Someone who is more powerful than anyone on earth(even our guy:P), purposefully made us that way, and no girl should ever feel guilty about being emotional.

But, being emotional is NOT being weak…! In fact it is our greatest strength, though most of us are unaware of it…No man can ever compete, or even think of competing, with the ‘Power of mind’ which we ‘possess’…! If we really want to forget something, within the shortest span of time, ONLY ‘WE’ CAN..! If we want to achieve something, before anyone would even start thinking about grabbing it, ‘WE’ CAN…! Whether we know it or not, in all times, WE are the greatest ‘problem solvers’..! No man can ‘love’ and spread ‘happiness’ like WE can..! Even,  ‘forgive’ like WE can…  Limited are the forces on earth that can combat our willpower..!

So, Fall in love, again and again…! “Love like there is no tomorrow”..! Enjoy every moment with your guy…! But, when he speaks about breaking up, if possible, take it with a smile..:) Ofcourse, it needn’t happen to you but if it happens, it shouldn’t collapse you. So Expect this, and if it happens, accept it..! Myself being a girl, I can understand the pain and misery it could bring in to a girl’s life. But remember, you are NOT ALONE in this..! Remember the million girls around you who are going through the same, and how you handle this situation matters a lot, not only to you, but to all of them…!

And above all this, pamper yourself..! Have a world of your own..! There is nothing wrong in it..:) Be his charming girl always, but at the same time, have your circle of friends. Try to be there for them when they need you…:) Try to keep yourself busy and do whatever you love doing..! Never cross the limit, but ‘extend’ your limit…:)  If you open your eyes to the world outside, you will observe, there are a whole lot of people out there, who need your help in some way or the other…You don’t need anything more to keep you busy..:) For those who love you, including your guy, be there for them always…! But pave way for your life such that nothing can hurt you in anyway…Remember, you are not alone..! Remember, the infinite power hidden in you as a ‘girl’..! Keep smiling, always..:):) Spread your charm…:)

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